Why not give yourself a promotion to celebrate the 2008 New Year?  It’s a Number 1 year –

If you scored 10/10 for each, you’re either still getting over the  New Years Eve celebrations,

or you’re a seriously elevated New Age Goddess.

For the rest of us, let’s demystify this.

I used to believe that. I thought myself to be a wonderfully generous and giving soul, forever

putting myself last on my “to do” list. In favor of helping and supporting others and getting

“everything” done. It wasn’t until I’d ground to a complete halt, exhausted to the core of my

soul, that I really looked at that pattern.

Its completely the wrong way around.

For a start it doesn’t matter how much we give to someone else it’s still their choice to be

satisfied with life or not, it’s not up to us. And most of the “things” we have to do are really

cycles that once complete, start over -  and away we go on the round-about again.

The other important thing to consider, when you spend your life giving away your time and

energy to keep others happy and get things done – do You feel happy? Probably not, you’ll

often feel uncared for and resentful because your needs are not being met in return. Yuck, a

whole lot of conditional giving and taking going on there.

And when is it that you get time out to focus on Your Self and what You need?

In that belief system - You don’t!

As the wonderfully diverse Being that You are, You need a continual flow of energy to function

well. Your energy comes from having your Physical, Emotional, Mental and Spiritual needs

nurtured. That’s a very specialized job and the best person to do it, is You.

• Accepting Responsibility for Yourself
  This is crucial for a New Age Goddess. To do it we need to step back from taking unnecessary responsibility for others. Then turn the lens towards ourselves and look at what’s needed within us. Lest we become like the mechanic who keeps everyone else’s car in tip top shape and drives around in a bashed-up, spluttering rust-bucket. Hello!
  
  
• Expecting Others to Take Responsibility for themselves and if they don’t, leave them to it, it’s their choice. It’s not your job to get in there and fix it for them.
  
  
• Not accepting less than what you deserve that’s a biggie and worth some thought.
  
  
• Setting some healthy boundaries around your time and energy, your space (physical, mental and emotional) your work and your general doingness.
  
  
• Making time for you a priority, put it in permanent pen in your diary and treat your appointment with the same respect you would give any other priority. Within that time, don’t limit yourself, do whatever you want.
  
  
• Becoming a Boundary Guard people and events will only overstep your boundaries if you allow it. So check your boundaries often.
  
  
• Walking Your Talk the more closely you can live according to your truth the more balanced and happy you will be, honor yourself instead of acting against yourself.
  
  
• Yes but, every time you think that in response to making yourself a priority look through the layers and keep asking yourself “why” until you get to the bottom of it. It will be quite revealing.

• You will achieve a lot more in one day than you used to get done in a month
  
  
• You will have more time and energy to share with others, support others, contribute to your passionate causes etc
  
  
• You will have deeper understanding of your self and others
  
  
• You will be a living example of how you want your children to be
  
  
• Others will respect you and your boundaries and show you a lot more consideration
  
  
• More importantly you will respect yourself
  
  
• Your relationships will be much more fulfilling and far less demanding
  
  
• You will feel fantastic about yourself, and your life

Do you recall your last airline flight? Remember watching the flight attendant go through the