Self-sabotage is what blocks our happiness and sense of purpose. It shows itself in many |
different ways, all of which: |
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Sabotage is the feeling that your best is never good enough. It constantly pushes you to do
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more and try harder. Because of that you’re never pleasing yourself. |
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The good news is that we can overcome self-sabotage – it can be easy and even fun, when |
you know how! |
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This is the first in a series of 4 articles that will show you the main “personalities” of self- |
sabotage and give you some great tips to overcome sabotage in your own life. |
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The first step is to recognise sabotaging behaviours when you see them. |
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Here’s the first pair of saboteurs: |
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“Little Ms Perfect” and her best friend “Princess Procrastinator”
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Little Ms Perfect and her best friend Princess Procrastinator are the ultimate self-saboteurs
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and they go everywhere together! Pooping parties and destroying dreams, far and wide. |
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Obsessive need for control,
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Overwhelming fear of criticism,
- Insatiable desire for approval
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Constant striving to get “it” just right,
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Has never got time for herself
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And she’s a bottomless pit that will drain your life and your relationships. |
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Sadly, she’ll never get 100% world-wide approval and she’ll never be happy with anything |
less. |
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Her constant companion is Princess Procrastinator who |
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Is always running around in circles
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Looks very busy
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Struggles to finish anything
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Has an enormous fear of failure
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And has an endless supply of very convincing reasons why she has to constantly distract |
herself from what she really wants. Phew how exhausting! |
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Because of that she is forever frustrated and disappointed, no matter how hard she works. |
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She’s also under the spell of Ms Perfect and must keep her happy, no matter what. |
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That’s a no win situation, because you and I both know that Ms Perfect is never satisfied and |
she’s a very efficient critic. Nothing is ever quite good enough for her. |
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So, Princess Procrastinator will do anything to distract and sabotage herself from what she |
really wants to do - for fear of incurring the judgment of Ms Perfect. |
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Hands up if you recognize these twin personality disasters? I do! |
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I’ve seen more than a little of each of them in myself and every other women I know. They |
hide beyond our conscious minds and create limiting beliefs and painful self-sabotage |
behaviours with the greatest of ease. |
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And its way past time they were vanquished. |
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to overcoming any form of sabotage |
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- Become aware of how this type of self-sabotage is working in your life, its much more difficult for sabotaging behaviours to survive once we see them in this light
- Look at the cost to you, in stress, pain, unfinished business and lost happiness of letting self-sabotage run unchecked.
- Ask yourself “What would I really love to be doing?” that Ms Perfect and Princess Procrastinator are preventing?
- See what you want to do in a series of steps, rather than trying to do it in one whole and perfect step.
- Make time for YOU. Put it in your diary in permanent ink and don’t give it up for anyone. Ms Perfect and friend are experts at gobbling up every second and not leaving a moment for you.
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